Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are often still considered a topic for "others" – for people with multiple partners or risky sexual behavior. However, this assumption falls short. Even in committed relationships, an STI test can be sensible – not out of mistrust, but out of mutual respect and responsibility.
The Myth of Exclusivity
Many couples quickly dismiss the topic of STI protection at the start of a committed relationship – often alongside the decision to stop using condoms. Choosing a monogamous partnership does not automatically bring medical safety. Infections like chlamydia, gonorrhea, or mycoplasmas can remain unnoticed in the body for a long time – even from previous relationships.
This means: Even if both partners are faithful, an infection from the past can remain undetected and only become apparent later.A one-time test at the beginning of a relationship can already provide clarity here – and without blame, but as a joint health check.
Show trust – through openness
Bringing up an STI screening in a relationship is often associated with mistrust. But in reality, the opposite can be true: Those who openly and honestly discuss sexual health strengthen communication and mutual trust.
Instead of assuming it is a sign of doubt, a test can also be understood as:
“Our health is important to me – and I want us both to feel safe.”
This attitude removes shame and enables a new normality in dealing with the topic.
When a test in the relationship is advisable
An STI test is especially recommended in the following situations:
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At the beginning of a new relationship, before discontinuing condom use
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After a breakup and a new start, even if you have known each other for a long time
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After unprotected intercourse outside the relationship, regardless of questions of blame
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In the presence of symptoms such as discharge, burning, or itching – even if they are nonspecific
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As part of a health check-up, e.g., when planning to have children
The tests can help resolve uncertainties and identify health risks early on – especially when no symptoms are present.
Discreet and easy from home
Many shy away from visiting a doctor's office – due to time constraints or possible uncomfortable questions. It is all the easier to get tested discreetly and conveniently from home. With us there are two test options:
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STI-Check Basic: Test for the most common bacterial pathogens (including Chlamydia, Gonorrhea)
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STI-Check Complete: Comprehensive test for 13 pathogens, including Mycoplasma, Herpes viruses, and Syphilis
Both tests are based on a simple urine sample, which is taken at home and analyzed in a medical laboratory – safe, discreet, and without a doctor's visit.
So...
An STI test in a relationship is not a sign of mistrust – but of maturity. Those who get tested together show: Our health is important to us.Open communication about sexuality, protection, and prevention is a strong foundation for trust – not the opposite.
